Has your heart been shattered like glass falling to a cold, concrete floor? If so, I know what that’s like.
It hurts. It hurts like hell. On second thought, hell might be better.
As we date and open ourselves up to relationships, eventually we find ourselves in the middle of a breakup. It happens to all of us, but it never gets any easier. When you invest so much time, energy, love, and even money into a relationship with someone you deeply love and care about, it’s devastating when they want to call it quits.
It’s ok to hurt. It’s ok to feel pain, anger, and frustration. But we also must learn how to fix a broken heart. Life is too short to be sad and miserable. Every minute of sadness is one minute of happiness gone…forever. Time is the one thing we can never get back. We can’t allow depression and sadness to overtake our entire lives. No other person should hold that kind of power over you, not even someone you love as much as your ex.
So what steps can you take to start mending a broken heart so you can either move on or work diligently to salvage your broken relationship? Two keys are time and space.
If you’ve just been dumped, it’s time to take a step back from your ex. Your ex needs this time as well. Trying to salvage a relationship when your emotions are running rampant is a recipe for disaster. It sets your heart up to get broken all over again.
So don’t beg and plead with your ex to take you back. Instead, step back. Cut off contact for a while. Don’t call, text, or meet up. Use this time to heal and give your heart a break from the emotional blow it has endured.
Here are 4 steps that can help you mend a broken heart and set you up to successfully get your ex back down the road if that’s what you want.
1. Stop Reliving The Past And Focus Forward
Your energy is wasted thinking about the past. The past is over. It can’t be changed. Once it’s gone, it’s gone. Focusing on the past will keep you in pain.
In Text Your Ex Back (my favorite guide for getting your ex back after a breakup), author Michael Fiore says,
“Have a seat. Put a stick between your teeth. This is going to hurt. Ready?
Your old relationship is DEAD.
Dead as Michael Jackson. Dead as George Washington. Dead as a dead duck on a dead horse in the dead of winter. It is a DEAD PARROT.
Do I make myself clear?
The moment you or your ex broke it off (and maybe even BEFORE that), your relationship was hung from the gallows, drawn and quartered, and fed chunk by chunk to a starving, rabid shark.
That’s not cruel. It’s just true. And you need to get it through your head. Otherwise, you’re going to be tailed by a gruesome undead specter of the past–a shambling, rotting Zombie Relationship–that will kill any chance you have to Text Your Ex Back.”
Bottom line: to mend a broken heart and fix your relationship, you must focus forward!
If you think Michael Fiore’s Text Your Ex Back System might be able to help you, there’s a great review of the program at NewspaperCat.org. You can also check out the program directly by clicking here.
2. Release Your Emotions In A Constructive Way
You’ll never be able to mend your broken heart if you hold onto your emotions, so let them go. Just do it in a constructive way. It’s ok to cry. It’s ok to scream. It’s ok to release your anger and frustration.
Just don’t do it in front of your ex. And don’t direct your anger and frustration toward your ex, even if they deserve it. Screaming in their face, throwing their stuff away, or trying to ruin their life are all counterproductive to not only fixing your relationship, but also to finding the inner peace that will let your heart heal.
3. Love Yourself
If you want to fix a broken heart, this is probably the most important step of all. You MUST continue to love yourself. After a breakup, it’s easy to have self-doubt. It’s easy to lose your self-esteem. It’s easy to feel broken, not good enough, and worthless as a human being. But the truth is, you ARE good enough. You’re more than good enough because you are YOU. Refuse to let others tear you down.
4. Everything Will Be Ok So Stay Positive
It doesn’t feel like it right now, but everything WILL be ok. It feels like the end of the world, but it’s not. It feels like you’ll always be sad and alone. But all those feelings are temporary. They don’t define you as a person. They won’t define your life.
Maintain a positive attitude as much as possible. It makes you more attractive to your ex and every other person on the planet. If you want to fix a broken relationship, you must remain positive about the outcome.
When it comes to breakups and mending a broken heart, time is your ally. With each passing day, the pain diminishes little by little. Have faith in yourself, and stay strong.